Stacey Castor Life Coach

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judgements, voices, and choices

Posted on June 13, 2017 at 10:45 AM Comments comments (4)

One of the concepts I understood twenty some years ago is that people who judge others are also judging themselves. Harshly. It first came up in my consciousness with a student, then a patient, and then, of course, internally because that’s just how the Universe works. The rub is that even when we get a concept cognitively we can’t necessarily transfer ...

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be very you

Posted on October 30, 2016 at 10:50 AM Comments comments (1)

I saw a post the other day where Jaden Smith (as in Will and Jada Pinkett Smith’s son), was talking about community, giving back, and small decisions that result in a big impact, among other things. He was articulate and informed and I felt moved. I felt moved the way I often do when young peop...

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just say yes

Posted on October 16, 2016 at 1:25 PM Comments comments (0)

Have you missed me? I have missed you! I have missed writing. I have been so busy with the fallout from a nearly split second decision that I haven’t had the energy, time, or inclination to sit at a keyboard. Mind you, I have written several blogs in my head during my new commute, but they don’t exactly translate to the internet….


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to speak or not to speak

Posted on July 10, 2016 at 10:40 AM Comments comments (2)

It’s not unusual to hear people, generally with pride in their voice, claim that they “speak their mind” or that they “tell it like it is”. Often this is in response to having said something hurtful, or at the very least abrasive and opinionated. Given that I am prone to encouraging people to speak their truth, I decided to spend some time exploring the nuances of stating our...

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don't take it with you

Posted on June 30, 2016 at 9:45 AM Comments comments (2)

For decades now I have been practicing letting go. Letting go of old wounds and painful memories. Letting go of people who drain me of energy. Letting go of foods, habits, and belief systems that no longer serve me well. And for the most part I have been successful. But here’s the thing; life goes on and new painful experiences pop up that can take the place ...

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window shopping

Posted on June 25, 2016 at 10:35 AM Comments comments (2)

It seems to me that one of the primary causes of stress in those around me, personally and professionally, is imagined drama. Yes, I know that sounds harsh, but we all do it. Daily if not hourly. Our brains just seem programmed to create stories with every decision and every bit of information we receive. Most of the time we are either unaw...

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finding peace

Posted on June 12, 2016 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (2)

There are so very many things in this world to feel angry about, to feel sad about, to even feel completely overwhelmed and hopeless about. You see them. I see them. I know they cause you pain. My heart too, feels them in ways that are excruciating and devastating. For a moment and sometimes two. But I try in those moments to take a breath, and without resistance to what is ca...

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easy does it

Posted on June 6, 2016 at 7:30 AM Comments comments (2)

Everywhere we turn these days there are self-help books, positive affirmations, funny memes, and ideas about how we can better ourselves, improve our lives and maneuver through the rough days. And trust me, I appreciate them, I do. I am an avid reader of and follower of several people who inspire and motivate me. Not to mention that in my d...

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idiots, losers, and asshats

Posted on May 24, 2016 at 12:35 AM Comments comments (1)

From the time we are small children, the adults in our lives admonish us for calling other people names. Ask any teacher or parent and they will back me up on this; we don’t like it when we hear a child call another child stupid, or a dummy, or any other derogatory name. And with good reason. It isn’t nice. It’s hurts the other person. And the one act that pr...

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curating our lives

Posted on May 15, 2016 at 3:35 PM Comments comments (0)

For those of you who have been following our journey for the last few years, you know there has been a theme: downsizing extraordinaire. With all due respect to Marie Kondo and her one and done theory, I beg to differ. I have decided that after several years of much going out, and little coming in, I am still, always and forever going to be downsizing. Period. And what brought me to this parti...

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